Why Does My Cat Sleep With Me And Not My Husband?

Cats sleep up to 16 hours a day. Although nocturnal beings, they still enjoy joining their owners in bed. But why does my cat sleep with me and not my husband?

If your kitty prefers your side of the bed, the feline is probably more attached to you. Your smell and warmth are possible reasons, too.

why does my cat sleep with me and not my husband

In this post, I will discuss possible explanations of why your cat prefers you over your husband when it’s time for bed.

Why Does My Cat Sleep With Me And Not My Husband?

Cats are mystical beings with quirky habits. If your kitty seems to prefer to cuddle with you  in bed or knead you  instead of your husband, the following might be the reasons:

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1. Your cat is more attached to you

Like dogs, cats develop an attachment to people who care for them. If you’re the one who feeds and pets the cat often, it makes sense why the kitty will prefer to sleep by your side at night.

You might be working at home and spending more time with your cat. Like humans, cats form a bond with those who are always present with them. They also run favorites in the household.

My kitten Watson prefers sleeping on my wife’s side of the bed. They see each other more often since I have a day job, and my wife works at home. While my kitty still loves me, he prefers cuddling with his mama at night.

2. Your cat likes your smell

Your smell might be the reason why your cat sleeps with you and not your husband.

Cats navigate and remember the world around them through their sense of smell. They also mark their territories with their scent glands.

Your cat probably likes your smell better than your husband’s. Your hubby might be using a more pungent perfume that your cat finds repulsive.

Moreover, your cat probably finds your scent comforting. This is why it will cuddle with you on the bed, despite your husband’s insistence on getting the cat.

3. You feel warmer than your husband

During a chilly night, cats will seek warmth on their owner’s side.

You probably feel warmer than your husband, which is why the cat prefers cuddling with you. It’s also a combination of the smell, warmth, and bond between you and the kitty.

4. You don’t move a lot while sleeping

Between you and your husband, you probably move less while asleep.

Cats hate being kicked, squeezed, and pressed, so they will gravitate toward the person that doesn’t do it at night. In short, the cat feels safer sleeping on your side than your husband.

5. Territorial instinct

If you have introduces a new pet, cats find it difficult to share their territory.

This may cause them to cling to you because they consider you a part of their pack or “territory”. 

Disadvantages of having your cat in bed

While it’s comforting to have your cat beside you at night, it’s not always a good thing. It comes with some disadvantages, including the following:

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  • Cats are active at night

Unlike humans, cats don’t get a whole night’s sleep in one go. They will wake up often and move around, which will disrupt your sleep.

The felines may have a catfight right on your bed if you have multiple cats.

Over time, this will become annoying and invasive for you and your husband.

  • Cats have dirty feet.

Unless you’re going to wipe your cat’s paws before it hops into bed, you will have to deal with dirty feet.

Cats love roaming around, and they can get all types of dirt on their paws and coat. It will make your beddings dirty and smelly.

  • Allergies

If your husband has allergies to cats, it’s a no-brainer that you’re not supposed to sleep with the feline.

Cats shed a lot of hair and dandruff. Dandruff that cats produce will stick to the bed and make an allergic person sick. While you don’t have allergies to cats, you can still develop them later in life.

Antiparasitic drugs can prevent you from allergic symptoms caused by parasites and germs.

Some even suggest that spending a lot of time close to your cat increases your risk of developing allergies.

Why does my cat wake me up but not my husband?

As a cat owner, I know very well how it is to be awakened by a feline. It can be a butt in my face, constant licking, or a loud meow straight to my eardrums.

But does your cat prefer waking you up instead of your husband? It might be that the cat trusts you better than your hubby. Also, you might be the one who usually gives whatever it is that the cat wants.

For example, you might be sleeping past your cat’s breakfast. Out of frustration and hunger, your cat will wake you since you’re the one tasked to feed him.

Lastly, you might have hurt your cat as you move while sleeping. This can lead the cat to bite or scratch you, which may appear as if the kitty is waking you up. Please read here: What Does it Mean When a Cat Bites You Hard

Why doesn’t my cat like my husband?

Cats often develop a dislike of people due to a variety of reasons. If your cat doesn’t gravitate toward your husband, the bond might be the reason.

It may take a little while for your cat to acclimate to your husband before it gives the same level of affection.

If you just got married, your cat may be jealous. It got used to being the only center of attention, and now you have another person with whom you spend a lot of time.

Aside from that, your husband is probably doing something your cat doesn’t like.

It’s possible that your husband also looks and smells like someone who has previously hurt or abused the cat.

Nevertheless, all of these can be fixed with proper training and exposure. Your husband can spend more time with the cat and let the feline yield at its own pace.

Why does my cat sleep on me when I’m sick?

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If you have a fever, your body warmth is very attractive for cats. This is the reason why your cat will suddenly like sleeping beside you. Read more here: Why Does My Cat Sleep On Me When I’m Sick

If it’s happening on a winter day, your cat will be more eager than ever to cuddle with you.

Aside from that, cats are attuned to the emotions and habits of their owners.

If there’s a sudden change due to your sickness, the cat will become stressed. The kitty will then seek your comfort.

Lastly, experts suggest that cats have the ability to sense chemical changes when the owner is sick. They can also pick up mood changes, which usually occur during sickness.


Why does my cat sleep with me and not my husband? The most common reason here is your bond with the cat. Your kitty feels safer and more comfortable on your side at night.

The sense of smell of cats is amazingly sharp. If you smell better than your husband, it could be one of the reasons that your cat prefers you to your husband.

Still, it’s not too late for your husband to win the heart of your little feline!

Thank you for reading!

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